Will and Destiny

These are very contradicting concepts. I believe in destiny , I think it is too mighty to be fought or defied. Now, I am not saying that destiny cannot to altered, i guess that is where "will" comes into picture. We all work towards a particular intention , a goal for ourselves, I am talking about life's major objectives and not the minor goals we set and break on a daily basis. Most of us have these "things to do before we hit 25, 30.....", how many of us achieve everything/anything?

So which one of these is primary and which one is secondary? Does destiny have more power over our will or is it vice versa?

Which kind are you? Are you one of those who thinks he can achieve whatever he wishes come what may? or are you the other kind who believes that there is a greater power , something above our will something that can shake the foundations of our will?? you must've guessed it by now, I am somewhat on the later side.

Although , i do not understand the existence of will if i believe in destiny alone. Why were we given something like a will of our own when all we were supposed to do was follow destiny's orders.
.......................so

Any answers out there?

The Namesake

Yes, the movie,What is so great about it?. I think it has become a trend to tag whatever is non - main stream as beautiful and brilliant. Every performance that Tabu gives is awed by people , she is undoubtedly one of the most talented actress we have today and she bags the critic's awards more often than anyone else. I think, that is the reason why people have started finding it "classy" to have a taste which appreciates such non-bollywood hindi / english movies. Even a total mainstream actors/directors start awing such movies(i guess that is because no matter how hard they try , the critics are never impressed).

I seriously find it hard to believe that so many people could relate to such a boring story about one family's lifetime. To me it failed to evoke any emotion. I thought it was too simple a story to be told in the first place. I think it had all the right people doing their bits quite genuinely, all for no cause. A bengali man and woman's culture struggle followed by their next generation's culture struggle was neither inspiring nor moving.

It is not that I do not have a taste for the not so commercial movies. I loved Water as well as Monsoon Wedding ,both these movies specially Water had lead characters which were inspiring .Water showed how the freedom movement , was not just freedom from the Britishers,it was also freedom from a stale unreasonable society and culture (which is still not completely attained). Monsoon Wedding , on the other hand had real life humor , sarcasm, bonding of a typical North Indian family well depicted and a total entertainer.

But with the whole of India going all praise about "The Namesake" , may be i missed something... ???

Large Vs Petite

Gender war... a different kind.
Its almost like a gender within a gender...the petite women vs the not so petite ones...
There is something about these small women , the whole world wants to come forward to save them from .. well something.

I have always been a broad shouldered girl, do not know what it feels like to look delicate."small" "cute" "petite" have never been adjectives used for me . I have never had guys standing up for me , I have always stood up for myself, fought my own battles. Some lucky things these little women are..

It is easy to find the small creatures, you can find them anywhere .... in a store.. in the park.. .library .... or at the movie.. but most likely to be found on a guy's shoulder. Men love these things, they feel their life's purpose fulfilled protecting these infant sized mature women. It is such a perfect match, women who are waiting to be saved and men who are dying to be saviors.

So what are the kind of men for the other kind of women? .......IF THERE ARE ANY....Men who do not need a woman's subservience to feel important in their lives, Men who wouldn't mind not taking the lead sometimes, Men who would like to be friends and not saviors to the women in their lives... I guess we are asking for too much ,
May be there is a reason why Sushmita Sen continues to stay a single mom while Aishwarya rai has hardly ever stayed without a boyfriend.

People.. and Leadership

I recently realized that I hated people who talk to me with their own hidden agenda in mind. I do not like people who manipulate others into doing what they want them to. The sad part is 95% of the people (specially men) fall into this category. Such persons get some weird feeling of satisfaction when they get their way with others , ofcourse without forcing them. Agreed it is an art, but I hate it when it is practised on me.

I guess this particular dislike is what drives me away from politics.And it is this dislike which made me sure what I want to pursue in my academic life. Which reminds me , that it looks like the manipulation is in some ways necessary if your so called "hidden agenda" is for everyone's good. But for people who think it is necessary, aren't they implying that their judgment is superior to others? So how different are these people from someone like Adolf Hitler or any other tyrant dictator. I remember "Mohan Bhargav" of the movie " Swades" , he too wants a purpose served, but instead of manipulating people he just tried to reason with them , rationalize them. Surely his method was tiring and will take a lot more effort than just showing people how they would benefit out of it. But I think it is the right way of doing it, true leadership, than using people's weaknesses to get your way with them.